This piece is sequel to ‘A husband’s Right to Sex’.

Dear wife, you have the right to demand sex from your husband and it’s holy to do so.  Matthew. 6:13KJV says “lead us not into temptation”, but some people lead themselves straight into it. Man, stop fasting, praying and getting too busy. Touch your wife, kiss her and have sex! She’s your wife joor.

Dear pastor, working hours is 8am – 4pm (regular). You won’t be wrong to switch off your phone at nights. Dear deacon, you need permission from your wife to fast. 1Corinthians 7:5 (NLT) says:

“Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”

You must not neglect or deprive your wife her rights to food, clothing and sex! Exodus 21:10-11 (NLT) is explicit to the effect that

 “If a man who has married a slave wife takes another wife for himself, he must not neglect the rights of the first wife to food, clothing, and sexual intimacy. If he fails in any of these three obligations, she may leave as a free woman without making any payment.”

If a slave wife deserve this, how much more your wife! Sexual intimacy isn’t a privilege in marriage. It is a fundamental right which when denied, can affect the validity of the marriage and cause divorce.

Why are you not enjoying and experimenting all your teen day’s sexual fantasies with your wife? She’s waiting! Give it to your wife, when, how and where she likes and want it. Sex in marriage is holy!

Don’t lead your wife into temptation. Stop exposing her emotions and hormones to predators online and in her office and also in your religious circles. You owe your wife sex! There are too many sexual temptations out there to make your wife vulnerable to her colleagues and friends on social media. Stop making your wife sexually vulnerable to the devils out there who are roaming, looking for sexually starved women like her to take advantage of.

Take time to notice your wife every day. What’s the name of your wife’s hair-do?

Have you ever picked lingerie for her? Stop being spiritual and don’t try to be holier than God.  Tell me, do you know your wife’s love language? Stop praying, and do it. Malachi 2:13-16 (NLT) says:

“Here is another thing you do. You cover the Lord’s altar with tears, weeping and groaning because he pays no attention to your offerings and doesn’t accept them with pleasure. You cry out, “Why doesn’t the Lord accept my worship?” I’ll tell you why! Because the Lord witnessed the vows you and your wife made when you were young. But you have been unfaithful to her, though she remained your faithful partner, the wife of your marriage vows.

Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth. “For I hate divorce!” says the Lord, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,” says the Lord of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.”

She may be shy about sexual adventures, but trust me, she would love it! And don’t fail to experiment with her sexual fantasies and desires. Once again, sex in marriage is holy.

Oga, talk truth, no bi sex make you marry? Why you come dey form strong man?

“…if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust.

 …Because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.” – 1 Corinthians 7:9, 2 (NLT).

If she likes 6packs, Bros, abeg, go and register with a gym. Nice cologne, perfumes, body spray and roll-ons turn her on too, go get some. They are cheaper than what you could suffer if she’s tempted to cheat on you. And please, remove that smelling shoe and socks from the room, it spoils romance. As someone said “don’t wear a “we miss you Pa James, and a Chelsea FC boxers to bed.”

Sex is cheaper than divorce. Pay her, her dues before she seeks a divorce lawyer. The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs is what the Holy Book says. SEXUAL NEEDS and not just penis and vagina intercourse. And of course, it is right for a wife to ask her husband for sex. 1 Corinthians 7:4 supports it (the wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.).

I don’t support husbands and wives living in 2 separate rooms. If your room is master’s bedroom, na who come be slave?  I know you’re the prayer leader, but you can’t fast without her consent!

“Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.  I say this as a concession, not as a command (NLT).”

 

“Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it’s for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. I’m not, understand, commanding these periods of abstinence—only providing my best counsel if you should choose them (MSG).”

– 1Corinthians 7:5-6.

If she has to nag about sex, then know that you’re already in big trouble. When last did you steal her glances and kisses? And if I may ask, what’s the colour of her eyes? And what’s the taste of her saliva? Stop being holier than God joor.

Left to some people, Songs of Solomon and Proverbs 5:15-20 and other romantic stories won’t be in the Bible. Never forget to make her anniversaries romantic. Never even forget them.

If she cheats, please, don’t be her judge. Let others do that and I hope they consider your contributions too. You better whisper those sweet nothingness into her ears before that of others make her deaf to yours. Maybe your bedroom needs that TV out and some coloured bulbs and new air-fresheners in. Kick away some files, discard papers, close your Bible and give your wife some attention! Stop bringing work home. It’s not your wife’s responsibility to pay for your over-time.

Attention, even on phone and other social media apps breed affection. Nurturing a relationship is like playing a piano, the moment you stop improving yourself, you start forgetting the chords to strike. Decay sets in the moment you start to lose physical and emotional touch with your spouse. Your wife is your intimate and sexual partner and not just your house-mate, cook and mother of your kids

Remember that intimacy for women isn’t just sex but care, concern, communication, attention etc. Stop being a non-intimate, familiar stranger to your wife. Do more, it is romantic. Pastor Ovie said “romance is anything that I do to make my wife happy.” Be like him. Romance is doing and saying things which makes the other feel special, loved and accepted unconditionally.

I tell you, your neigbhour’s wife and that lady in your office isn’t as hot as you wife. Just pimp your woman up and you would be amazed at the goddess that lives in your bedroom. May be somebody needs to apologize to his wife for denying her sex and romantic touches, words and glances.

One important outcome of having intimate sex between married lovers is emotional safety says Funmi Akingbade. You can’t be romantic to your wife, while speaking your love language, but hers. Know what tickles her. I know love is a verb, but still say it. It may sound weird at first, but say it.

She’s already your wife. It’s too late not to love her. So, tell her you love her until it embarrasses her to acceptance. Attend to your wife’s sexual desires. No sane woman deliberately starts an affair. She usually finds herself caught-up in it. I want to believe that you did not marry an insane woman (that would show so much on your credibility).

It is unfaithfulness to your wife and God to give church and church members the time your wife deserves. It is wrong to rank other family members, even if they are your kids higher than your wife. You work because of your family and not the other way round. You wife is more important than your job. This is the much I can say here and I hope we are still friends, guys.

My name is Earl, and I am Alright.

 

YOU ROCK!