Another Way to Avoid Temptation

Personally, there are many ways to avoid sexual temptation. I have spoken and taught on 3 sure ways before, among many others. So, this isn’t the all in all. There isn’t a one rule fit all (sort of). It’s like saying there are many mathematical ways to achieve 9. It could be by 3×3, 6+3, 8+1, 10-1 etc. So let me tell you another simple way to master your sexuality. Yes, another way to avoid temptation, another way to be on top of your sexuality game.

Do not forget that avoiding temptation is different from resisting temptation. That is, there is a big difference between “lead us not into temptation” and “when being tempted beyond what we can bear, God will provide a window of escape for us/deliver us from evil”. The focus of this piece is another way to avoid temptation and not another way to escape, resist, handle etc temptation.

Several years ago, I came across a statement by Joy Bako that showed me another way to avoid sexual temptation:

“To avoid the temptation to have sex, we are to begin a relationship when we are ready for marriage”

Many young people always ask me when the right time to date is. They usually want to know when the right time to go into a relationship is. My answer is always simple (so I think and believe). I usually answer “when you are ready for marriage.”

The Lord’s prayer says: Our Father, who art in heaven, Hallowed be Thy name. Thy Kingdom Come, Thy will be done on earth, as it is in heaven, Give us this day our daily bread…and LEAD US NOT INTO TEMPTATION.

Mhen, the problem is that, most of the time; we are the ones leading ourselves into temptation. Yeah, we lead ourselves into sexual temptations when we decide to do a romantic relationship before we are ready for marriage. No wonder Solomon the wisest man in the only romantic book in the Bible advices us not to awaken love before the time is right (before we are ready for marriage, before we are ready for the responsibility of romantic challenges). See Songs of Solomon 2:7, 3:5, 8:4.

Folks, there is nothing wrong with getting married. There is nothing wrong with sex and there is nothing wrong with romantic relationships. The problem is that many people usually don’t do the right thing at the right time. It is one thing to know the right thing, and another thing to do the right thing, but yet another entire thing to do the right thing at the right time.

So once again “to avoid THE TEMPTATION TO HAVE SEX, we are to begin a relationship when we are ready for marriage.

Now, let’s see what our Bibles say. Perhaps your Bible is close-by or it’s even in your device. So let’s see what it says about this advice that Joy Bako gives us. I use the NLT as my personal choice of preference. Songs of Solomon 2:7 it says PROMISE ME, O women of Jerusalem, by the gazelles and wild dear, NOT TO AWAKEN LOVE UNTIL THE TIME IS RIGHT. That’s what Chapter 3:7 also says. And yeah, before I forget and miss it, that’s what chapter 8:4 also says. Solomon was definitely wise when he advised that although it is right to awaken romantic love (eros), there is a time to awaken it.

Here’s the most important question: What time is it right to awaken love?

Many counsellors agree that it is when you are ready for marriage. And because of this, some churches have rules that a courtship shouldn’t be longer than 6months, while others say one year unless there are compelling reasons why the wedding can’t take place within the period. The reason for this isn’t farfetched. Being in a relationship for a long time makes us face many sexual temptations not only from and with our partner, but also from other persons around us. So one way to save your dear soul from sexual temptation is “…begin a relationship when we are ready for marriage”

Are you ready for marriage?

My name is Earl, and I am Alright.

God bless Nigeria (good people, great nation)

You rock!



3 Sure Ways to Say No to Sexual Temptations

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