(the dangers of Sex-Chats)

 Today is another Tuesday and this affair with you on the #AlrightsPassion is compulsively addictive. Funny enough ehn, I don’t want therapy because you always rock my evenings every Tuesday on #AlrightsPassion. No wonder everyone of us at the #AlrightsPassion love and enjoy praying for you. #PrayingTuesday

My name is Earl, and I am Alright. Thanks for choosing to spend this time with me. The #AlrightsPassion MISSION is “helping teens, singles and married with sex and relationship issues through Spoken Words. The #AlrightsPassion VISION is “providing Christian counseling for teens, singles and married on sex and relationship.”

Today, I wish to show you some of THE DANGERS OF SEX-CHATS/TALKS/GISTS.  As you read, you’ll understand why I say I WAS SAMSON and SHE WAS DELILAH. And please, do make effort to read the links I’ll provide later. They will help you understand this issue more.

Faith (in anything) comes by hearing (Rom 10:17) and all our actions are based on faith in that “action”. You fear because you have faith that something can harm/hurt you. We all have faith. The more you hear something, the more you believe it, and have desire to do it and this includes sex. 1Corinthians 15:33

Most people who consult with me for counseling usually don’t get how it happened or all started; it just did. But hey, nothing just happens, not even sex or kissing. It flowed out from your thoughts. No wonder the Bible says you guard your heart with all diligence, for your actions come out from there. Proverbs 4:23. And how do you guard your heart? By guarding you 5 senses; the gates to your mind.

The wise man wasn’t foolish when he said we should avoid perverse talk. Proverbs 4:24, Colossians 4:6, 3:8, Ephesians 4:29.

See ehn, gone are those days when it was believed that men are moved by sight and women are the ones that are moved by words. In reality, men and women alike are moved by words. See Proverbs 2:16, Chapters 5 – 7, and Genesis 39:7, 10. The biggest weapon these women had on the men wasn’t their looks but their words; seductive words.

Now, whether you’re a man or woman, guard what enters your mind through your ears. Proverbs 1:10, 1Corinthians 15:33.

Sex talks, chats or gists stimulate sex. It arouses and fuels sexual appetites and activities. Regarding this, Paul advised Timothy his protégée to avoid what stimulates lust. 2Timothy 2:22. See Proverbs 5:15-20

Sex chats is so close to sexting and fuels sexting, masturbation, porn and sexual intercourse. That’s why one of the easiest ways to collapse a person’s sexual walls is through sex talks. These sex talks may be in form of chats, gists, novels, radio programmes, movies, songs, etc. The more you allow sex talks, the easier you’ll allow “sexy” pictures, songs, movies, behavior, etc. The more you have sex talks with a person, the more sexually vulnerable and weak you become to them.

Do you remember how a frog is cooked? The heat is turned up slowly and gradually until it becomes a served jumping chicken. How I wish Samson knew that all the honey, wine, lap, petting, stroking, food and chemistry was for his hair. So, be careful about “sexy” gists that most especially talk about your looks and sexual features.

More tempting is that this is usually with a person you’re attracted to or in a relationship with.

Sex talks lead to sex touches and we both know where that leads to, don’t you dare deny it! Personally, I see sex talks/chats/gists as audio pornography breeding worse fantasies than video porn. Also, I see audio porn and romantic novels/magazines even far more dangerous than what we generally call pornography. Maybe that’s because I still hear all the voices in my head and remember the lines from “Hint”. And I remember all this far more than I remember a video pornography or picture pornography.

Many of my counselees over my 11years plus counseling experience attest to this. How I wish Samson knew he was going down slowly as described by “slow fade” by @CastingCrowns.

When you drop a standard, other standards resting on it would crumble like domino. With time, from sex talks, masturbation will creep in, so also sex, pornography and intercourse; all compulsive behaviours.

Remember when Jesus (and Paul) said a little leavening leavens the whole dough? He was referring to things like this. Sex chats will create sexual fantasies, sexual dreams, sexual desires and sexual acts.

If you forbid the meal, don’t bother smelling it, let alone dishing it out for others.

Male or female, sex chats move us, changes our thinking and subsequently our actions. See Romans 12:2, Philippians 4:8, Proverbs 1:10, 1Corinthians 15:33. But hey, God is able to deliver you from it (Psalm 107:20) and keep you from falling (Jude 1:24, 1Corinthians 10:13).

Take note that I haven’t said that talking about sex with your partner is wrong. We just need to know the difference between talking about sex and talking sex; the difference about sharing the same sexual values and orientation with our partners and arousing them. Yeah, it’s good to have frank “sex-talk” with your partner in setting standards for the relationship.

Please, make efforts to read, at least, one of the links I would provide to help you understand this more.

It is your relationship with Jesus that makes your other relationships sweet.


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What’s Wrong With Kissing?



Sexual Healing; My Jesus’ Story



HOW IS YOUR SEXUAL HEALTH? courtesy @Grace_Festus of #WhenSinglesGather

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